Healing Isn’t About Forgetting—It’s About Remembering Who You Are
By Hunter Grimm
🧠 Why I Wrote This
I used to think healing meant getting over it.
Stuff it down. Rise above. Move on.
But the more I tried to outrun my past, the louder it got.
What I’ve learned—and what I’m still learning—is that healing isn’t about erasing the pain.
It’s about facing it with love.
Not to punish ourselves, but to empower the future we’re building.
🌀 The Truth About the Past
No matter how far I move forward, the past always finds a way to whisper,
“Are you really free yet?”
Healing has nothing to do with pretending it didn’t happen.
It’s about integration.
Here’s what that means for me:
I stop making my past the villain.
I see old wounds as signals, not curses.
I get curious instead of judgmental.
And slowly, the weight I’ve been carrying becomes wisdom I can use.
🌱 Why Most Healing Advice Falls Short
“Just let it go” sounds good in theory.
But the body keeps score. The nervous system remembers.
And sometimes, the only way out is through.
I’ve found that true healing happens when:
I feel safe enough to revisit the memory without reliving the trauma
I stop seeing my reactions as flaws and start seeing them as data
I surround myself with people who meet me with presence, not pressure
🔬 The Science Behind Emotional Integration
Our brains are wired to protect us. That’s why trauma loops happen.
💥 The amygdala sounds the alarm.
🧠 The prefrontal cortex shuts down.
🛑 Fight, flight, or freeze becomes the default.
But here’s the good news:
Neuroplasticity means we can rewire our responses.
Healing isn’t woo—it’s biology paired with belief.
When I started practicing breathwork, body awareness, and somatic grounding, I noticed real shifts.
Not just mentally. But spiritually. Physically. Energetically.
🔄 What Healing Actually Looks Like
Spoiler alert: it’s not linear.
Some days I’m grounded.
Other days I’m crying in my car, wondering if I’ve made any progress at all.
But I keep going. Because:
I’m worth the effort.
The future me deserves peace.
And someone else out there might need my voice to find theirs.
🔁 3 Practices That Changed My Healing Journey
1. Journaling With Compassion, Not Criticism
Instead of asking, what’s wrong with me?
I ask, what happened to me—and how did I survive it?
2. Somatic Check-ins
Each morning, I ask: Where is my body holding tension?
Then I breathe into it.
3. Spiritual Reflection
I blend science and spirituality.
Scripture, quantum physics, and shadow work all have a place at my table.
💬 Final Thought (In My Voice)
Healing doesn’t mean I forget what I’ve been through.
It means I remember who I really am underneath it.
And if you're reading this—just know:
You don’t need to be “fully healed” to live fully.
You just need to begin.
