Nobody Is Coming to Save You: How to Lead Yourself in a Disconnected World
By Hunter Grimm
🧭 Why I Wrote This
I’ll be honest—this hit me deep. I was listening to Nobody Is Coming to Save You: A Green Beret’s Guide to Navigating Social Chaos with David Neagle and Scott Mann, and something Scott said stopped me in my tracks:
“Nobody is coming to save you.”
It wasn’t cold. It wasn’t hopeless. It was liberating. It reminded me that everything I’m looking for starts with me. In a world that feels chaotic and tribal, that’s the kind of message we need more of—not fear, not division, but ownership.
🔥 What’s “The Churn” & Why We’re All Feeling It
Scott calls it The Churn: that overwhelming, noisy, disconnected energy of today’s world. Social media, news, politics—it all keeps our nervous systems locked in fight or flight.
We're overstimulated and under-connected.
We’re tricked into believing we’re powerless.
And worst of all, we forget the strength we already carry.
I see this in my own life, too—in the scrolling, the self-doubt, the avoidance. But Scott’s perspective reminds me: The enemy isn’t other people. It’s disconnection itself.
💡 What I Learned from a Green Beret About Leadership
Scott Mann spent his life in Special Forces. He faced real chaos and led people through it—not from a podium, but from the trenches. His message is simple but powerful:
“Leadership isn’t about titles—it’s about energy.”
Here are a few tools I took from the podcast that shifted how I see the world:
🧠 1. Reclaim Your Autonomy
We’re conditioned to expect someone else to fix things: the government, a guru, a relationship. But freedom begins when we stop outsourcing our power.
Reflect on victim-based thinking.
Ask: Am I waiting for someone to save me? Or am I leading myself?
🌡️ 2. Check the Emotional Temperature
Scott teaches a method to regulate our internal state—because you can’t lead others if you can’t lead yourself.
Sympathetic = fight/flight 🧨
Parasympathetic = calm/connect 🧘
Breathwork, stillness, music, movement—these shift your nervous system and bring you back to center.
🗣️ 3. Human Skills > Tech Skills
In the age of AI, guess what’s becoming rare? Real conversation. The ability to listen, to soothe, to connect.
Leadership in 2025 doesn’t look like a badge—it looks like someone who knows how to calm a room.
🌍 The Hope That Brought Me Back
Scott points to history—how movements like AA, NAACP, and Rotary rose from chaos. We’ve done this before. And we can do it again.
It starts locally. With you. With me.
Not waiting for rescue, but becoming the connection we all crave.
✨ Final Thought (In My Words)
Nobody’s coming to save me. And that’s exactly why I can save myself.
I’m not here to be a pawn in someone else’s chaos.
I’m here to be a calming presence in my own life—and to help others do the same.
If you’re feeling like the world’s on fire, remember:
The way out is inward. The way forward is together.
📌 Quick Takeaways
You’re not a victim of the world—you’re a creator in it.
Social media is not your compass—your nervous system is.
The most revolutionary thing you can do right now? Connect on purpose.
📚 Want to Dive Deeper?
Scott Mann’s book Nobody’s Coming to Save You and his free Leadership Academy are great places to start. You don’t need military training to lead—you just need presence.
